At some point in life, you have to embrace the struggle and accept the challenge laid before you. I have been working on my health and fitness journey for the last few years and I’ve lost weight. I’ve gained weight. I’ve maintained. I’ve been thin. I’ve been fluffy. I’ve been a little overweight. I’ve been very overweight. I’ve been fine with it. I’ve been depressed about it. It’s safe to say…I’ve been at just about every level.

There are times in my life when I am happy with my weight and I am just fine with how I look. But there are times in my life where I am not and know that I need to work harder. That’s part of life and part of the journey.

However, the problem is waffling back and forth on a day-to-day basis. That’s when we get ourselves into trouble. At some point, you have to acknowledge and accept that you’re just shooting yourself in the foot.

You have to recognize that sometimes when you’re feeling “ok with where you’re at”, it’s actually that you’re not willing to face the struggle on that particular day.

Over the last couple of months, I have been really analyzing my thoughts when it comes to my “self talk” regarding my weight loss journey and how I feel about my body.

First and foremost, I love my body. I love it because I’m extremely hard on it and it still wakes up every day. My eyes open, my heart is pumping and my lungs are breathing for me. If you really think about all the things your body does you will see what an absolute miracle it is, despite what we’ve put it through. I have put this body through the ringer. I’ve lost and gained weight and that yo-yoing is extremely hard on it. I’ve fueled my body with nothing but diet coke and fast food for years. It’s responded by getting fluffy, yet I still blame my body, like it’s my body’s fault, or my genes fault that I’m sluggish or that I’m overweight or that I have tons of aches and pains. The hard truth is that it’s no one’s fault but our own and it’s not until responsibility is taken, that change can happen.

So in my evaluating and really paying attention to what I’m thinking in certain situations, things have started to become extremely clear. What’s my thought process when I decide to have a cheat day? What am I saying to myself when I decide’ it’s ok to have a HUGE piece of cake or extra scoop of ice cream?

On the other hand, what’s my thought process when I make healthier choices? What words am I hearing when those decisions are being made?

I started writing them down and came to the realization that it was absolute self sabotage and most of what I said to myself just wasn’t true. I hesitate to say “lie” because in those moments, I must have been willing myself to believe them because it didn’t feel like lying or malicious in any way. In fact, quite the contrary – it made me feel happy.

BUT… (insert screeching halt sound effect)… that feeling was temporary and short-lived. Even though deep down I knew what I was about to do wouldn’t serve me, wouldn’t move me forward in my journey, it was exactly what I wanted to hear, and I was able to convince myself that I was happy and that this ONE LITTLE THING WOULDN’T MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE BIG SCHEME OF THINGS.

That couldn’t be further from the truth. Here’s what I’ve realized.

First and foremost, I needed to DECIDE that I really truly did want to lose weight and get healthier, and that I wasn’t “happy” with where I was physically. I came to that decision because if you are waffling back and forth day by day…you haven’t DECIDED. You haven’t been clear about your truest outcome.

And for me, the reason I hadn’t done that was because I knew it was going to be hard. I knew it was going to require tough choices being made consistently and over a long period of time. And I knew that the journey wasn’t going to be easy. 

When you make the decision to lose weight and to create new, healthy habits, it starts with you and what you CHOOSE to do. You may say to yourself that this ONE scoop of ice cream or this small handful of chips isn’t going to make or break your weight loss. You couldn’t be more wrong. In the big scheme of things, having that one little cheat probably won’t make or break you on the scale, but every time you choose to do the right thing, eat the right food, you are developing extraordinary discipline. And discipline creates lifestyle.

So does this mean we can never again have those yummy foods?!? Of course not! Life without ice cream and cupcakes would be a sad world for me! But not yet. We have to master discipline first.

And that’s soooooooo harrrrrrrd for so many of us. But here’s the thing…my main takeaway here…you have got to stop telling yourself things that just aren’t true. You have to listen and catch it when you are trying to convince yourself that “you are fine with the way things are or that you’re happy as is”. But listen…if you are truly fine, if you are truly happy, then you’re good to go! That main word there was convince. If that’s what you’re doing, you have to recognize it and nip it right away! And that’s going to take practice and you being intentional about listening to that self talk of yours.

If you’re reading this, you probably know I’m a planner and love to help others create manageable schedules so their lives are less hectic, crazy and stressed. The key to that is to create a game plan, set benchmarks and tackle those daily to-dos with consistency.

Planning to live healthy lifestyle is exactly the same thing. You will need to create a game plan to get healthy. You need a system and process to follow. You need to set goals along the way and benchmarks to check yourself and evaluate your progress. And you need to create a daily game plan.

I know what to do and how to do it. That’s never been my issue. The issue is that I hadn’t embraced the struggle and accepted the challenge.

I know this is cliched BUT it’s my truth right now so I’m going to share it —>

“You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be conquered. “

I don’t know where I heard this or who said it, but it’s what speaks to me now. I’m ready for this journey ahead. I know it won’t be easy, but I also know I am stronger than my excuses. Over the next few months, you’ll hear a lot about my journey if you choose to stay in touch and follow any of my social media. My day-to-day, behind-the-scenes is on Instagram stories. You are welcome to tune in and watch BUT better yet…you are welcome to join me and do this right along side me! —> CLICK HERE!

If you are hesitating because you’re afraid of failure, you are not alone. I am too. But you have to get over the fear, grasp it with both hands and tell yourself over and over and over again…I GOT THIS! The lifeline is out there and my girls and I are waiting for you! We can do this together! And remember…the longer you wait, the longer its going take to see results. —> CLICK HERE NOW!

XoXo, Charlani


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